Friday, November 19, 2010
Just a sandman Idea
Should not the first step in any program not be to admit anything, but instead to develop the idea that we are stronger than we give ourselfs credit for, that we are tired of being weak, tired of being preyed upon? That we once again are ready to take control of our lives? The first step should be to start empowering ourselves to make that journey back to sanity? To bolster our ego's in the effect that if we want to become sober again, we as addicts, individuals, must nurture our desire to break free from the chains that bind, until it is more powerful then the alluring draw of meth use? Yeah I know this acceptance idea needs some work, but I truly feel this idea if not number one on the list should be near the very top of the list, okay who am I kidding I believe this needs to be number one, but as with everything I write, it is definatly open to suggestion. Baba Brinkman puts it this way Performance, Feedback, Revision. that is how everything is done from evolution to common day success in all endeavors, Why? Because it works, and I believe if we in the creation of a new recovery system remember these 3 steps we will be successful. Thank You Rik
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I had to think about this one a few times. Not because I disagree with the building of the ego, but I had to think of which came first the chicken or the egg. Bare with me while I try to piece this together.
ReplyDelete* Before someone seeks out help, they first need to know that there is something wrong. Maybe not stand up and admit they have a problem to a room full of strangers but something somewhere has to trigger the light to come on where they look @ themselves and think.. wow, I can't continue living this way.
* First step vs. First step in program -- realization usually happens BEFORE one seeks a program, therefore they have already admitted to themselves that they need change. Sitting in a program usually indicates 1.) the self-admitted addict believes they can't do it alone and wants help. 2.) It's court ordered, they are there because they HAVE to be 3.) Addicts looking for their next fix -- I fell out of my chair when a recovering addict told me that they use to go to meetings to score their next high and SEVERAL if not most of the local group (at that time) were doing the same.
* Why are addicts...well, addicts? Not enough time to get into all that..... some reasons however, A.) Life is out of control & drugs are one thing they can control, which then eventually turns into not being able to control the body and thoughts without the drugs...Basically long story short...control. B.) Liking the feeling they get, numbness, worries chased away,.... hmmm.... a form of control here too. -- WTH?!?!? Lets tell people who are resorting to drugs as some form of control that they are "POWERLESS" ... umm.. Great idea!!
Still here??? lol, guess so, sometimes you just have to talk these things through ... I have decided to agree that the first step in an actual "PROGRAM" setting is NOT to have to admit anything (you are already there so either you have admitted it to yourself, which is all that really matters OR you are there because you HAVE to be, therefore don't think there IS anything to admit to). Working on giving yourself more credit and strength and the boosting of the ego I agree will not only help those sitting there really looking for help but may even reach those that are just doing their time.
Exactly We are human, as a race we strive on control (in general, we all love to have our ego boosted, it is when we get that boost to our ego we become more apt to produce. I really think the start of recovery starts long before a person ever sets foot in a room with a counselor, or a group. I Honestly feel that a new campaign centered around the "You are empowered to quit" maybe not those words could do wonders a loud shout with 2 fists in the air letting addicts know they have the power to win to be on top to gain control over life again, May be a key to reaching so many in the world of addiction, those that are teetering on the top of that proverbial fence. Yeah Riks got his gears turning. A FRIEND stated to me yesterday something that has been eating away at me, he said "Dont forget us losers that are still riding the fenceline" How could I forget those still riding the fence? Everything I try to do is for those still riding the fence. I tie this in because if they are riding that close to the fence maybe just maybe, I or we will hit the correct sequance of words to trigger a reaction in a positive manner, to stroke that desire for control, to groom their ego just enough that they will ride down that fence just a little farther and find, of all things "A GATE" Thank You Rik
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